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dancing is what i do OR not

people think i'm not having a good time if i'm not dancing. they don't realize how much of an incredibly bad time i have when they a) make note of my lack of dancing and 2) try to make me dance.

it kind of sucks.

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(Anonymous)
Oct. 5th, 2005 08:16 pm (UTC)
Why do you care what people think?


-T.
shakewell
Oct. 5th, 2005 08:21 pm (UTC)
in this case, i care because they've got it all backwards.

i think people ought to have the right facts in front of them.
(Anonymous)
Oct. 5th, 2005 09:09 pm (UTC)
well let them think what they want. No need stressing about the situation.

-T.
shakewell
Oct. 5th, 2005 09:48 pm (UTC)
if i let people keep thinking the opposite of what is true, then they continue to make me feel bad on accident.

why the hell would i want that?
(Anonymous)
Oct. 5th, 2005 10:46 pm (UTC)
Then instead of whining about it on here why don't you tell them to their faces.

-T.
shakewell
Oct. 5th, 2005 10:52 pm (UTC)
wow! what a great idea! why didn't i think of that?

oh wait. i did.

of course, i'm certainly not about to go up to every person i ever meet and tell them this preemptively. the part i was complaining about was how this invariably happens with all people who encounter in dancing situations. it sucks that the "normal" way of thinking is completely opposite of how i actually am.

by the way, is there anything with me that you don't find dault with?
(Anonymous)
Oct. 6th, 2005 01:57 am (UTC)
um wait a minute. I'm sorry, but did you just,"dault". I'm sorry but i don't quite understand what you're saying. What is, dault? Please explain what you mean. i'm simply at a loss of words. Did you just make an error.

OHHH! wait! I think i know what you meant. You meant, fault. Am i right? Fault, is what you meant. Oh man , you really had me there. I was seriously baffled at how ridiculous that sounded. "is there anything with me that you don't find dault with?" You almost had me there, really you almost had me.

-T.
shakewell
Oct. 6th, 2005 03:12 am (UTC)
so, you deciphered the typo.

but you never answered the question.
ladyjay19
Oct. 6th, 2005 03:36 am (UTC)
T is for Tyrant
Usually your journal is a happy place, but I feel like their is some wicked karma in the comments area.

I hope you have a grand weekend--I think it's cool you dance period. Most of my friends refuse to take part in the act.

-J
shakewell
Oct. 6th, 2005 04:09 am (UTC)
Re: T is for Tyrant
stick around for a while. the hate is cyclical.

always when i am most content with myself some hater has got to try and bring me back down.
bettoney
Oct. 6th, 2005 08:04 am (UTC)
I know what you mean - I do, I do!
I love to dance. I dance a lot. My purse actually states in block letters that "I'd rather be dancing". Some nights, however are sitting nights or watching nights or relaxing nights. On those nights I just don't want to dance - not because I'm having any sort of a bad time, but simply because I don't want to dance. For some reason people often get their lines crossed on this subject, and (usually out of their own insecurity) they assume that either you aren't having fun or that you're really craving a megadancefest but are too shy or uncomfortable. Either that or they take it is you being a in a bad mood and (usually out of selfishness) want to change that so they don't have to deal with your perceived mood. This situation is often exacerbated by alcohol.
I have experienced this dilemma from both sides and I can confidently say that the person abstaining from dancing festivities totally gets screwed. It should always be a person's prerogative to join in or not join in ANY activity. No one should ever be harrassed about this, ever, but it happens all the time. All it does is breed aversions to dancing in the harrassed. It's bullshit and I'm an asshole for ever doing it to my friends [sorry!]. I sure fucking hate it when they do it to me.

I don't know who this "T" character is, but he/she conjures up the image of some neurotic small breed of dog on adderall. Whoa. Someone should give "T" a doughnut. Increase those pesky blood glucose levels, eh?

shakewell
Oct. 6th, 2005 02:02 pm (UTC)
Re: I know what you mean - I do, I do!
i'm glad someone else could sympathize with this (and have such insights too!)

and it's not that i don't ever want people to ask me if i want to dance. i love it when they do--once! because sometimes i do feel like dancing, but just not alone and i'm terrified of being the jerk that harasses people onto the dance floor so i sit and wait. and sometimes i don't feel like dancing because i'm down in the dumps. luckily, saying so to a potential dance partner often presents an opportunity to talk about it with someone who sincerely wants to know why.

it's just another one of those seemingly meaningless social interactions that can really rub someone the wrong way. i don't expect anyone who wouldn't feel that way to understand it, remember to treat me differently or change their behavior at all. i just wish they could at least read my body language and hear what i'm saying when i tell them no thanks, i'm not feelin' it tonight. because, as the harrassment goes on, i have to be more and mroe blunt, direct and firm in order for them to understand that no means no. inevitably, at the end of the ordeal, they're the one who just wanted to do something nice for me and i'm the one who just wants to throw a fit and pout. so they say at least. (i'm sure T would agree here.)

i get the shit end of the stick becuase i didn't feel like dancing on my sore feet or because i thought the music sucked or because i was having a nice conversation with someone. total bullshit.
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