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out of a courtesy to my brother, i wasn't going to discuss here how beatfreak acted last night, but, since she's already thrown a fit about it in her journal, i hardly see the point now.

last night was to be the second time bridgette ever met beatfreak. she was very nervous about the event, because the first time they met was when beatfreak showed up and had a horrendous fight with eli in the wee hours of the morning after a party at the house or something. poor bridgette was stuck pretending to be asleep on the couch while beatfreak screamed, cried and threw things around the house.

true to form, beatfreak showed up early this morning after eli didn't respond (or respond favorably) to the increasingly hateful series of text messages and voice mails she left for him all night long. eli had to stand out on the cold-ass porch with her for at least a half hour (because she's not welcome at brent and jodie's house). i don't know what they talked about, but i can only assume it had something to do with eli not giving her enough attention, since i witnessed that exact scenario several times during their courtship. as if eli doesn't have the freedom to choose how and where he spends his time!

anyway, everyone i know is in agreement then when a girl shows up at where you are to talk to you after you've made it clear that you don't want to talk to her, it's not at all a healthy behavior for her--especially after you've broken up.

beatfreak was complaining that all too often people say the agreeable thing to her (i'll call you, we'll hang out this weekend, etc.) and then flake out on her.

shakewell said: Subject: I'm not trying to be a bitch, but...

your behavior borders on that psychotic edge as it is, i can't imagine how bad you'd flip out if someone told you something you didn't want to hear.


beatfreak said: Subject: I'm not trying to be a bitch, either, but... oh wait. I am.

Wow. That's a really rich thing to hear coming from your mouth. /My/ behavior borders on psychotic? I guess it takes one to know one.


and, of course, then she deleted me from her friends list.

i really wasn't trying to be a bitch. it really didn't occur to me that this would turn pretty much prove my case in point and beatfreak would get so offended by me sharing a very common opinion of her in order to shed light on why people treat her the way they do. (i wouldn't actually say this behavior was at all psychotic, but i would say it's inflammatory and entirely out of proportion, which leads me to expect similar disproportionate responses in increasingly more serious interactions.) i was honestly only trying to help her out and i ended right back up in the same black hole as before, just with a new center of gravity this time.

even though this ended up with her sharing a similar unfavorable opinion of me (as if i care) and locking me out of her journal/life, i'm still glad i don't sugar coat my dealings with people or pussy foot around the issues i have with them (which is exactly what beatfreak was asking for in her rant against flakes).

be careful what you ask for, i guess.

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(Anonymous)
Sep. 19th, 2005 01:34 am (UTC)
Well it seems to me that you just know everything about everybody. From what I have read on here about your situations with people, it seems as though you are never the problem, are you? I think that you should take a look at your own problems before trying to "help" with other's. That is what you try to do, right? Help others, because you seem to know what they are going through. Well, I think maybe you should quit trying to step into other people's situations because it always backfires on you. Then you get on livejournal and complain about how you ended up in the same black hole as before and make it sound like it was not your fault in the least. I am not saying I know much about psychotic behavior, but before diagnosing someone else with the disorder, make sure you are completely freed of it yourself. Thanks for your time.

-T.
shakewell
Sep. 19th, 2005 01:58 am (UTC)
the mention of the black hole was in fact a diagnosis of my behavior.

while i did instigate the interaction, that doesn't make her behavior my fault. her reaction is entirely under her control and absolutely not under mine.

and i don't consider what happened here a backfire in the least. while my intention was to help, i had no expectation that it would. just as i had no expectation that it would go down like it did.

and, if you really read my journal at all, you'd know that i am very critical of myself. in fact the goal of writing this post was not to embarass beatfreak it was to remind myself of her reaction to me, in case i should ever want to just fit in and give people what they want.

she asked for honesty. as a friend, i felt i owed it to her.
shakewell
Sep. 19th, 2005 02:02 am (UTC)
and i didn't complain about being in the same blackhole, i observed that i was in it again.

it's so easy to dramatize things, isn't it? and i suppose that's my fault and not yours.
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