last night was to be the second time bridgette ever met beatfreak. she was very nervous about the event, because the first time they met was when beatfreak showed up and had a horrendous fight with eli in the wee hours of the morning after a party at the house or something. poor bridgette was stuck pretending to be asleep on the couch while beatfreak screamed, cried and threw things around the house.
true to form, beatfreak showed up early this morning after eli didn't respond (or respond favorably) to the increasingly hateful series of text messages and voice mails she left for him all night long. eli had to stand out on the cold-ass porch with her for at least a half hour (because she's not welcome at brent and jodie's house). i don't know what they talked about, but i can only assume it had something to do with eli not giving her enough attention, since i witnessed that exact scenario several times during their courtship. as if eli doesn't have the freedom to choose how and where he spends his time!
anyway, everyone i know is in agreement then when a girl shows up at where you are to talk to you after you've made it clear that you don't want to talk to her, it's not at all a healthy behavior for her--especially after you've broken up.
beatfreak was complaining that all too often people say the agreeable thing to her (i'll call you, we'll hang out this weekend, etc.) and then flake out on her.
shakewell said: Subject: I'm not trying to be a bitch, but...
your behavior borders on that psychotic edge as it is, i can't imagine how bad you'd flip out if someone told you something you didn't want to hear.
beatfreak said: Subject: I'm not trying to be a bitch, either, but... oh wait. I am.
Wow. That's a really rich thing to hear coming from your mouth. /My/ behavior borders on psychotic? I guess it takes one to know one.
and, of course, then she deleted me from her friends list.
i really wasn't trying to be a bitch. it really didn't occur to me that this would turn pretty much prove my case in point and beatfreak would get so offended by me sharing a very common opinion of her in order to shed light on why people treat her the way they do. (i wouldn't actually say this behavior was at all psychotic, but i would say it's inflammatory and entirely out of proportion, which leads me to expect similar disproportionate responses in increasingly more serious interactions.) i was honestly only trying to help her out and i ended right back up in the same black hole as before, just with a new center of gravity this time.
even though this ended up with her sharing a similar unfavorable opinion of me (as if i care) and locking me out of her journal/life, i'm still glad i don't sugar coat my dealings with people or pussy foot around the issues i have with them (which is exactly what beatfreak was asking for in her rant against flakes).
be careful what you ask for, i guess.